Hello Reader,

I got this unkind remark this past week in response to a comment I made on a post by Austin Belcak about Cisco cutting 5,500 jobs.

Here was my comment on Austin's post:

My comment had obviously triggered something in this person.

There was some discussion following my comment with others, but they were respectful as we shared our different perspectives.

TBH, reading that comment pissed me off.

I was tempted to re-engage in a 'debate' about his assumption about me being ignorant of the real world.

As the primary and at one time sole provider of our family with 2 young kids and elderly parents, I understood the pressure of having a 6-figure business debt, while paying for your mortgage, loans, and bills to keep your kids in school, roof over our heads, food on the table and the lights on. I knew what it was like having $3 in your bank account and skipping meals so you could let your kids have theirs.

It was how I started my entrepreneurial journey by writing online about debt, savings and money.

And why I learned I could only reduce my expenses and debt to a limited extent before you're living a small, limited, and miserable life.

My thing has always been about up-skilling yourself to make more money by bringing more value to people and the marketplace.

I believe if you make more than enough money, you don't have to scrimp and save on everything.

But, I decided to disengage from that discussion.

I realised he must be hurting a lot himself and was just reacting to his situation the best way he knew how.

Engaging in a fight would not have served me, so I decided to disengage and let this go.

It wasn't easy since I can be quite hot-tempered!

After working on myself for many years, I've come to realise what triggers me, why it triggers me, and when to walk away.

To do this, we need to tap into a higher level of awareness of ourselves.

I call her my wiser, higher self. You can call her anything you want that helps you connect with this aspect of yourself.

Whatever you call her, we all have this wiser, higher, self that's there to take care of us.

She guards and protects us, guides and reassures us, and lead us to a happier, more fulfilling life.

It's reassuring to know we always have this in-built higher self within us to take care of us.

How can you connect with this higher awareness within you to guide and protect you?

Here's what I do whenever I'm triggered:

1. Find a private space for yourself - sometimes I'll even use a toilet cubicle if that's all I have!
2. Bring your attention to your breath, observe how you're feeling, including any bodily sensations, like any aches or pains.
3. Ask your higher self to dissolve this feeling and bodily sensations.
4. Give yourself a couple of minutes to just sit in this space.
5. Notice if any insight or shift in perspective comes up.

Sometimes, I'll get an insight later, when I'm doing something else, and it always comes as a gentle realisation out of the blue.

I also have a visual of what my higher self looks like - you can do this too when you have more time.

Imagine what this version of you looks like. It's easier to call upon her in those crazy, split-second moments when you need her, when your first instinct is to react and lash back, even when there's no obvious imminent threat or danger to your physical safety.

What triggers you?

Try using this technique and let me know how it goes!

Have a great week ahead.

Happy Sunday!

Sharon

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