Reader,

Can I be honest with you about something?

I used to wait for the 'perfect moment' to make career moves. When the kids were older. When I had more savings. When I felt 100% confident I could pull it off.

Here's what I learned: That moment never comes.

The career you want? The one that gives you fulfilling work, time flexibility, and financial freedom? It starts with believing you can figure it out as you go.

Today I'm sharing the 3-step method I use to build that belief - even when I'm scared.

The 3-Step Evidence Method: How to Trust Yourself When You Don't Feel Ready

Step 1: Bust Your Old Story

Your old identity might sound like: 'I don't have what it takes because I've tried before and failed.'

Try this instead:

• Get still (meditation helps) and ask: 'What's the lesson here?'
• Change your inner dialogue: 'This is happening FOR me, not TO me'
• Release the version of yourself who believes she can't do it

Step 2: Build Your New Story

Your new identity: 'I'm getting better and clearer about what I want because every experience teaches me something.'

Practical steps:

• Define your highest version - what is she thinking, saying, doing?
• Act 'as if' you're already her (not 'if only' someday)
• Journal the evidence you're gathering that proves you can do this

Step 3: Reinforce Daily

Practice and repetition is how you reinforce and embed your new identity until it becomes who you are.

• Create routines that connect you to your new identity (I do morning meditation + journaling)
• Take consistent action from this new version of yourself
• Aim for 80% consistency, not perfection

My Real Example:

My old story: 'I'm terrible at business - look at all my failures: party planning, MLMs, cafe, coaching programs that didn't work.'

My new story: 'Each *failure* taught me what I liked, what my strengths were, and what business model works for me. They led me to my 3rd path - keeping my corporate job while building something meaningful on the side.'

The evidence I gathered: This approach gave my family stability while I experimented, figured out I wanted to help working moms, and built something sustainable without burnout that eventually led to $20k additional income in 1 year.

Here's the Truth:

If other working moms have created fulfilling careers with time flexibility, you can too.

You don't need to wait until you feel ready. You just need to start gathering evidence that you can figure it out.

The process takes time anyway - so why not start now?

Listen On The Podcast

Prefer to listen to me talk about this 3-Step Evidence Method? Listen to the podcast:

Want help seeing your blind spots?

Sometimes we can't see our own limiting beliefs - we're like fish in water.

If you want to explore designing a career that supports the life you want (instead of forcing your life to fit a corporate mold), hit reply and let's talk.

I'm building this path too, and I share everything that's working (and what isn't).

Cheering you on,

Sharon

P.S. What old story about yourself are you ready to bust? Hit reply - I read every email.

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